When a client cries in session, I have a mini celebration on their behalf (inwardly). Let me explain. We're scared to feel So many of us are scared to death to feel! We don't let ourselves because we don't feel safe to, so we avoid. We ignore, push down, fake, pretend, and deny. But then what happens? Brené Brown's research found that when we numb the hard feelings, we numb the good ones too. We can't selectively numb, so we flatline somewhere in the middle, because neither e

Our brains often receive the dominant spotlight in therapy - there's lots of thinking and talking going on unless we make a conscious effort to pause, slow down, and consider, "What's happening the body?" I love the saying, "Don't believe everything you think." The opposite is largely true for our bodies: they generally don't make things up. Or do they? One thing is clear: the sensation is always real, even when the threat isn't. Much like water, we can do more directing than

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